CHOOSING THE CORRECT PARTNER
Many people believe that we all have auras, colors, lights, and patterns emanating from our bodies. The frequencies of auras have higher vibrations than the physical bodies, but just as people don't see the full spectrum of physical light, or hear all the sounds even a dog can hear, people are aware that there is more out there than what the sense perceive. A woman may even chose her partners more for their auras than she realizes, and a woman can be more affected by their partners' auras than she ever imagined.
Auras, like chakras, nadis and the entire astral anatomy, are the particular science of Tantra Yoga, and all the specifics have been mapped out by the ancient seers in India. They have been seen forever, all over the world, by psychics. Auras have many layers, each one farther out being more subtle, perhaps physically harder to see even for some of those who have trained their eyes. The first layer closest to the body, the etheric aura, is generally glowing, light colored, with not a lot of color variation, and primarily changing in shape. It is a blueprint of the physical body and physical health. For those who can see it, it is the same shape as the body, with spokes of energy spiking straight out from the skin all round. It may be a quarter inch to two or three inches wider than the body. It is so small and non descript that seers don't usually see a lot in it, but it does get holes, bulges, lopsided, contracted, paled out, congested and more, depending on a person's health.
Outside the etheric aura are colors, a more free-form shape, more movement, images of memory and symbols of strong feelings. This second level has various ways of interacting with the environment, including with other people. For example, red spikes shoot out in anger towards someone, soft pink may sidle up to a stranger and test if he may be romantically interested. Sometimes the color will become pale if the person is feeling washed out or color can be replaced by green if there is healing going on, particularly in a specific area. This level can take many shapes, from pointed at the head, to being boxed in, to being bottom heavy and materialistic, to reaching far above the head into spiritual realms.
Beyond the second auric layer is the mental body, which is more conceptual, followed by the intuitive body, followed by many layers that are more and more spiritual, our true large selves. Eventually, the largest auras are very different in nature from the smallest. They are our very largest selves, before we begin to fade into the universal, right at the edge where the two meet. They go beyond space and time and the limited focus of the ordinary consciousness in this incarnation.
Two aura viewers can see the same thing in double blind tests, though not everyone sees the same aspects of auras. My aura viewing friend, Carolyn, and I have corroborated many, many times all sorts of details about peoples' auras we see all over the place. There is no question about their reality. Once you see your first glimpse of one, there is no going back, and the idea that we have many bodies rather than just one provides a luxuriously delicious pleasure potential. Why make love with just one body when you can make love with all of them?
Today I'd like to discuss the first rule we must understand before playing with others, so things work out smoothly for us. Auras are contagious. We thought we just had to worry about STDs. Now, it's STAs too. Sorry about that. However, though it takes a lot of work and discipline, if we pay attention to how auras interact with others, our lives get better.
Auras interact not only in sexual relationships, but in healing sessions and even in things like reflexology and acupressure. The color of an illness can creep unnoticed onto the hands of the masseuse, up the arms and take over the body. Sometimes it also starts in the eyes. This contagion can even happen long distance, and that is even harder to prevent or remove. Sympathizing with a person's problems can allow their colors to move into the aura at any point. Uh oh. If you are the kind of person who listens to or takes on other people's problems, always being there for them, helping out when you can, you may be especially vulnerable to taking on other's aura colors. If the person is a family member or a loved one, the bond is especially strong. If you are in a sexual relationship with that person, you have opened yourself up even more to that contagion. If you can see it, you realize that this is not a small matter - it is very tangible and easy to see for aura viewers.
How do we prevent that auric contagion? As far as sexual partners go, it's good to be aware of this when choosing someone. If you enjoy your aura as it is in its (presumably) somewhat pristine state, expressing your self, and only yourself, you will want to keep it beautiful. Having a beautiful aura is even more important than having a beautiful face or figure, not only because others can subconsciously see them, but because the state of the aura is the state of your soul. It tells you how you are doing, and having a joyful, expanded, loving one feels great, and often rewards you with a lovely life. If you are attracted to someone whom you feel most likely also has a beautiful aura, someone who is not selfish or engaged in base lust only, someone who is honest and not self destructive, but has healthy habits, is happy and clear headed, the day to day "contagion" between your auras could be a very good thing. The two colors may dance together, sharing spiritual energies if you both identify yourselves with your larger levels of your aura. On the flip side, if you identify with your very lower selves, such as having sex with someone you feel simple lust for and no love or respect, contagion of the darkest colors is more readily invited.
Furthermore, if you truly do love a person but he or she is in a bad place, it's possible to get nasty, congealed, spiked, clouded, grainy, splotchy colors from him or her. This is one reason to think twice before taking on a new lover. If they are prone to going into bad moods, if they have a streak of bad things happen to them or are perpetually in a stressful situation, then you may well be inviting the corresponding ugly colors into your aura. If you have made a bond with this person, these negative colors can contaminate your aura, whether or not you've been with him or her physically. If something is going wrong with that person, you will feel it subconsciously.
The auric body can take many approaches when dealing with relationships with troubled people: your aura can reflect the contaminating colors, absorb them, develop allergies to them or go into an autoimmune response wherein your own aura will reject itself. For these reasons, learning what you typically do with auric energies is a good study that can affect your whole life.
A person who is secure in her own self may be able to see that others' problems are spiritual manifestations which are fine for them to be experiencing, or a person may simply be hardened to other peoples' problems and not be very empathetic. A woman like this will not have to worry about contamination from others' auras. On the flip side, more a woman thinks about another person as he exists in this incarnated personality, in this body, the more she opens herself up to some merging of auras. If you think of a person as a spirit, or as his aura, and yourself as your own aura, including the biggest layers, the more the color of his Tantrically Divine self will come through to you rather than his problems on the lower levels of his aura. But even still, some of it may come through if you are not careful. If you are the giving type, not good with boundaries or saying no, this will make you even more vulnerable to contamination from another's problems. It's important to address how you deal with others and whether or not your spirit interacts on healthy levels with the partners you choose.
Just as important is to analyze how your lover treats energy. Is he the taking type, the dumping on other people type? Is he needy? Does he send out negative vibes at you when he is angry? Does he feel like he is pulling on you out of possessiveness, surrounding you with his color?
Some aura colors that mix with yours may be nice, but the combination may not work. Strangely, when the two mix, they are either artistically compatible or not. Just as red and yellow make orange, orange and green make brown. Brown isn't necessarily what we're looking for in a relationship mixture. But you can both alter your personalities in order to find a better auric mixture, so it isn't black and white, so to speak.
As you read this article and become aware of your own aura and how it interacts with those around you, you'll start to make better choices about those in your life, your relationships and the way you treat yourself. Trust your intuition, especially as a woman, as this is a manifestation of your aura, and it will help guide you on a healthy path.
Originally published July 2007 - "Sexy Success"