Dear Dr. Dick,
Do you have any suggestions about FE? I believe I have once and it was total bliss. But achieving it again is quite another issue.
- T, age 46
Dear T,
FE??? Are you talkin' Female Ejaculation, darlin'? Ok, let's start with a little background.
The G-spot (or Grafenberg Spot after the physician who first wrote about it) is a small area of spongy tissue just behind the front wall of the vagina, between the back of the pubic bone and the cervix. This is analogous tissue to the male prostate. In fact, the G-spot is sometimes referred to as the female prostate. But like most things sexual, particularly if it has to do with female sexuality, there's a lot of debate about whether the G-Spot is the same thing as the female prostate. I intend to steer clear of that controversy just as much as possible.
What I can tell you for sure is that during early fetal development both male and female fetuses start out being physically female? This does not change until a male fetus begins to produce its own hormones around the eighth week of gestation. Only then does the physical development of the male and female bodies diverge. Of course, this necessitates that female fetuses initially have structures that could develop into either "male" or "female" reproductive and sexual organs. This means the tissue that develops into the male prostate gland must also be present in women. Get it?
Many women report that their G-area is more sensitive to stimulation than other parts of their vagina. To find your very own G-spot, put two fingers in your pussy and curve them upwards, like toward your belly. Now make a "come here" motion, stroking the upper wall of your vagina with a firm, upward pressure. Feel that? That's your G-spot, darlin'! How fun is this?
Fingering yourself like this will probably be more pleasurable if you're already aroused. Some women have orgasms and/or ejaculate from G-spot stimulation, but not all women ejaculate and not all women find G-spot stimulation pleasurable....wouldn't ya just know it!
Some women report that they feel like they need to pee when their G-Spot is stimulated. Therefore, I suggest. that before you go rootin' around in your pussy lookin' for your g-spot, that you completely empty your bladder. Oh and make sure your fingers are well lubricated throughout your exploration. Even if you have a lot of your own vaginal lubrication, I always suggest the use of a water-based lubricant to augment your own juices.
We all know that post-menopausal women experience bouts of vaginal dryness, but even younger women have dry episodes, especially if they are taking antihistamines or antidepressants.
If ya want to hit your G-spot while fucking, may I suggest you try "the woman-on-top -- cowgirl" position or the "doggy" position. These are best because your partner's dick will be better situated to hit the front wall of your pussy.
***Guys, most women need firmer pressure to the front of their pussy to have a G-Spot orgasm. This might best be accomplished by quick strokes and a lot of deeper friction.
Like I mentioned earlier, G-Spot stimulation may cause you to ejaculate a small amount of white or clear fluid. Some women produce more ejaculate than others. Just remember, the gushers...the ones you see in porno movies...are faked for your viewin' pleasure. I mean, come on; some of these videos would scare the fuck out of Noah!
Enjoy your exploration, T. Like I always say, the more you know about the mysterious workings of your own personal pussy the more information you'll be able to share with your own personal partners.
For more tips and information on female ejaculation, check out a review of Deborah Sundahl's "Female Ejaculation & the G Spot."
Originally published December 2007: XXXMas