I’m a submissive in a long term BDSM relationship. My Dom has pushed my boundaries time and time again and there is nowhere I haven’t gone with him. But this time, he has asked for something that I’m extremely uncomfortable about. He has informed me that he will be piercing my inner-labia eight times (four on each side). He’s never done piercing before but is preparing for the ritual by taking an online course and practicing the craft on chickens. He’s putting a lot of thought and effort into it, but I’m still concerned. I know that I can’t ask him not to do it, because of the nature of our relationship this is definitely not negotiable. So I guess I’m wondering is this safe?

Soon to be Pierced

I don’t know much about inner labia piercing (or piercing in general for that matter) so I contacted the talented men at Boulder Colorado’s K&K Piercing for advice. These guys have been in the business for over 16 years and definitely know a thing or two about needles—I even have a couple of extra holes in my body thanks to them.

Co-owner Koko advised that the inner labia piercing should not be attempted as a first piercing. “It is like jumping onto a fast going freight train,” he said. “It’s important to know a little about anatomy and a lot about piercing before undergoing a procedure such as the inner labia piercing. Although it is not as dangerous as a clitoral piercing, the labia can be easily infected, even when pierced in a sterile environment.”

That said, the good news is that purportedly a piercing in this area is a lot less painful than say, on the outer labia. But that still doesn’t make it the wisest idea.

The fact that your boyfriend has been practicing on chickens is of no comfort to Koko who laughs, “piercing chickens is like learning to drive a car by playing with a steering wheel at home in your living room.”