Name: Dena
Gender: Female
Age: 32
Location: NYC
I love my cunt. In fact you could say I have a cunt fetish. I love to
stuff my cunt with really big toys. My current BF introduced me to fist
fucking and I love it. I guess what I want to know is can this be
dangerous?
I love it, a chick who refers to her pussy as a cunt! You go, girl!
But what’s this…you’re just now gettin’ around to askin’ if fisting
is dangerous? Not before, but after you’ve had a fist in your cunt?
Well, so much for being proactive. I’d be willing to guess that you
probably already have some data on the advisability of this form of
extreme sex play. You clearly have enough information to declare that
you LOVE IT.
Ok, for everyone in
my audience who hasn’t heard of fisting (both those with a cunt and
those who are cunt-less), let’s start at the beginning. I trust you
know what fingering is, right? Whether it’s fingerin’ a pussy or an
asshole, it’s loads of fun to diddle someone’s innards. We already know
that fingerin’ a dude’s hole will stimulate his prostate, which even
non-gay men are finding to be way fun. And fingering a pussy will
stimulate a woman’s G-spot. Ok sex fans; take that fingerin’ concept
and multiply that by 5. That’s right, fisting is inserting a whole
hand/fist into cunt or asshole.
For all you folks who haven’t fainted away, yes, it is anatomically
possible, and yes, it CAN be EXTREMELY pleasurable. I hasten to add
that gettin’ a whole fist inside a pussy is somewhat easier than gettin’
a fist in an asshole. But for folks like you, Dena, those who are into
massive penetration, nothing is a bigger turn-on. Fisting aficionados
say that handballing is the most intimate and complete way to touch
another human being. This kind of extreme penetration has to be worked
up to slowly and gently.
To your question if this practice is harmful…well not if ya do it
right. First off, the fisting top does NOT make a fist and ram it home.
Trust and communication between partners is as essential as is tons of
lube. Some folks swear by Crisco, others the legendary J-Lube — a
handy-dandy concentrate for veterinarian use. They believe this product
stand apart from the rest because it’s more slippery and gooey. You can
find J-Lube in Dr Dick’s Stockroom. See the My
Stockroom tab right there at the top of this page. How
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The fisting top must, of course, respect his/her partner’s limits and
pain threshold. Safe fisting is happy fisting. And to that end, keep
the following concerns in mind.
First of all, the fisting top must cut and file all his/her nails
until every finger is as smooth as it could possibly be. Your fingers
will be in some very delicate places — places that may not have pain
receptors. You’ll want to insure that you minimize all chance of causing
injury.
Make sure your partner is relaxed, comfortable and turned on. When a
woman is aroused, her pussy lubricates, relaxes, expands and lengthens;
all of which are very important for accommodating a fist, don’t ‘cha
know.
Even the wettest cunt in the world will need lots and lots of lube
during fisting. There’s no such thing as too much lube, so prepare for a
big fat mess. Lube your hand, the back of your hand, between your
fingers. Keep applying lube as you go. Push the lube into the pussy (or
asshole) with your fingers. Remember if you’re using latex gloves,
oil-based lubes will dissolve latex.
Start with one or two fingers and work your way up to three and then
four. Most people need some time to further relax their muscles, and
some may require several stretching sessions, over weeks or even months,
before they can actually accommodate a whole hand.
Tops, be sensitive to your bottom’s feelings. You are trying to
finesse part of her body to open and to admit part of your body deeply
inside her. If you take your time, the energy exchange between you and
she will move you both into an altered state. Communication and
relaxation is key.
Once
you’ve reached a five-finger insertion, you’re almost there. But it’s at
this precise point that the handballing top needs to be the most
attentive. Your partner’s pussy is being stretched to its near limit.
Your partner is going to be riding a wave of pain/pleasure. If you find
her cunt has reached its limit for the time being, respect that and
pull out slowly. But if your partner wants more, then slip your knuckles
inside. Be sure to fold your thumb under your fingers, so that your
hand will form a duckbill wedge shape. This will allow you to gradually
stretch your partner open as you press on. Apply steady but slow
pressure.
Your partner should tell you when to push and when to back off.
Careless fisting can cause muscle and tissue injuries. If the top goes
too fast or too hard there’s gonna be more than discomfort, there will
sure enough be injury. Listen to the owner of the pussy; she will let
you know the difference between hurts so good and hurts really bad.
Your knuckles are the widest part of the hand and the most difficult
part to get past the opening of the cunt. If there’s gonna be resistance
to the insertion of the fist, it’ll probably be at this point. Wait
until your partner is ready before making the big push. She may be able
to help by bearing down (like if she were birthin’ a baby, or taking a
big dump). Once your knuckles slip past the ring of muscles around the
vaginal entrance, the pressure will ease off. Now you can gently roll
your duckbill shaped hand into a fist.
At this point, the owner of the pussy or asshole may want a gentle
pumping movement with your hand. Fisting can produce extremely intense
sensations; so ask her what feels good to her.
When the session is done, make your hand into the duckbill wedge
shape once again, and gently slide it out slowly.
Good luck ya’ll
Dr. Dick
Originally published April 2010