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O&C Take Out - Alter-Egos Anyone?

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Sexual Role Play and Dress Up - Do you Partake?

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Dear Readers,

Lamenting the season finale of United States of Tara has us wondering about alter egos... specifically, sexual alter egos. This month's Take Out question is: Do you role play or dress up for your partner? If so, what's your favorite outfit or alter ego? What is your partner's? Just how many sexual alters do you have? 

Remember, all answers can be 100% anonymous, just use a fake name...(your secret will be safe with us, Alice!).

xoxo

Jordan and Samantha

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Originally published June 2010

Comments

• Talia
  6/16/2010 11:38:20 AM

  I do not believe role play is just a way to have a different partner without going outside the relationship. I find role play stimulating to the mind as well as the body. With the right partner, it provides a dimension in which to safely explore aspects of sexuality we might not otherwise explore--aspects of ourselves. For you Freudians out there, I will state it this way: I think role play shorts out the ego and provides a structure within the confines of the superego to deeply explore the id. Did I mention that it's fun?
• A. K.
  6/16/2010 12:06:54 PM

  As to role play, or fetish I seem to have a desire to fuck my own mother or sister. I tend to go to such stories a lot. I use the word fuck purposely since it would not be making love it would be purely carnal in nature. Even as a young man I lusted after females older than I was. I thought it was because they were more experienced and would be more willing but I now wonder since I discovered stories about young men and their mother. The thing is, I never knew my mother or a sister if I have one. I am an orphan. I have to wonder if that's the reason for my desire.
• j brooke
  6/16/2010 12:20:03 PM

  I believe skin is the ultimate costume, a shadow garment of multiple alter egos, where the brain is the disguise that allows pain, joy, hurt and pleasure and above all wonder, shaded within the color red, for blood, blue for stark eyes that stare within the moment of madness as indigo solar suns, that melt within the ever changing hands, directed by the mind, when two lovers decide to leap, to trust, crash in sexual lunacy through the sealed doo of their passions, then discard all common sense and safety, when they decide to discard all costumes from the material world, thus living within the erotica of a masked sexual ball, called the brain, the ultimate and ever changing disguise, always confusing, always morphing, always pleasuring, forever different, as each tear drop from the eyes of a lover dissolves along her swollen lips, from the imagination of a man who cared to ask, tonight my darling, who would you care to be, and what would you care to be, and why would you like to be, mine, connected to the fire storm of my finger tips, unmasked now, within the swirrling hurricaine of my mind.
• Roxanne
  6/16/2010 12:31:01 PM

  I am my alter ego. I created an alter ego years ago to "play" with my husband. She was everything I was always too shy to be. I dolled her up in a wig and all kinds of sexy costumes, gave her a completely different personality- the very first time I introduced her to my husband (at the time still my boyfriend) he totally flipped. He named her "Roxanne". Later when I started writing erotica and sex related advice and reviews I used the name as my pen name. So now I am "her" professionally- and she still visits the husband in costume from time to time. I have a few other alter egos that go with other wigs and costumes but Roxanne is the most complete- almost a split personality type of thing- especially now that most of days are spent being her. I also have a bombshell blonde, a naughty goth vamp, and a brainy librarian/sexy secretery type woman complete with glasses and a bun in her hair that comes down when things get steamy). Roxanne still remains the favorite of mine and hubby's though. Hubby and I have done other role playing, costumes and what if games too- we like to experiment.
• Dancer
  6/16/2010 1:58:21 PM

  I like to fix dinner and place it on the dining room table and then undress and put on a frilly apron, so that when my husband comes home he sees me standing at the sink with nothing on but an apron. We usually start foreplay immediately and I undress him slowly. We like to perform oral sex on each other, taking turns laying across the kitchen table. It is a big surprise when he comes home and finds me in the kitchen with nothing on but an apron. Afterwards we sit down at the dining room table nude and have our dinner.
• SSG
  6/16/2010 1:58:37 PM

  Oh, yes. This is a great way to explore different sides of yourself and your partner and break out of some of the ruts we all get into, in spite of our best intentions. When I put on the pigtails and the schoolgirl outfit and break out a coloring book and crayons; I know Daddy is going to spank me good and send me to bed early. Yay!
• Rosalía Sanfilippo
  6/16/2010 5:11:32 PM

  Acting out different roles adds a little spice to our nineteen-year marriage. I put on a long blonde wig to cover my dark tresses and I play dominatrix with plastic handcuffs and whatever slutty outfit I choose among my wide,sexy wardrobe.
• Angela
  6/16/2010 6:04:14 PM

  I like to play Mata Hari and I want to get all of his secrets out of him, down to the last drop of his molten essence!
• CLH
  6/17/2010 1:52:03 AM

  I am blessed with a partner who is endlessly creative AND able to be be spontaneously flexible and responsive. He inspires my creativity as no one else has and gives me a safe space to try things that with anyone else I never would have considered. Surprisingly the internet has helped our creativity to flourish. We often spend days and weeks spinning a fantasy role play via email that takes on a life of its own, culminating in a "date" or encounter to play it out in the flesh. Over time this habit of ours, that grew out of a spontaneous accident, has given us the opportunity to play out dozens of different roles. He dominates, I dominate, he dresses up, I dress up...the possibilities are endless thanks to the boudless imagination that has blossomed and flourished. The most surprising thing I have learned about role play is that, while it offers opportunities to play and have fun, the most profound experiences have been the role plays we've done that have served to bring up and heal very deep wounds. Thanks to the depth of trust we have nurtured, when one of us comes up against some kind of "issue" or emotional barrier or trauma, we find ourselves almost instinctively flowing into the creation of a fantasy role play that will serve to allow us to express it, purge it, and heal it. It is a deeply beautiful, profoundly moving experience.
• Blue Lizard
  7/4/2010 6:48:10 AM

  We do enjoy dressing up. I wouldnt call it an 'alter ego' thing...its more of a change to the norm. It is something that doesnt require a lot of imagination as we tend to remain ourselves but allows us to look at each other in a more fun light. Usually the outfits are not something we would wear out in public (altho that is an occasional option) but outfits for around the house. If anything, it prolongs the foreplay because neither of us want to change. The biggest problem is there are not enough things for men to take on a different personnae. And we have looked. She is the one that has all the outfits...I get to drool...

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