O&C Take Out

O&C Take Out - Let's Talk Puss

Tags: 2010 ,  Reader Input

What do you want to know about her body?

Share your sexpertise by commenting below.

We need your help to prepare for a new book on all things vagina! We're looking forward to providing straight and bi men with the essentials on proper play with the cootchie.

Men: What is it you would really like to know about your woman's body? Are you curious about her response cycle? Do you want to know how hormones might affect her sex drive? Are you just looking for a new technique? Whatever it is, we want to know!

Women: What is it you wish your man knew? And be honest. ;)

Remember, all answers can be 100% anonymous, just use a fake name.
xoxo

Jordan and Samantha

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O&C Take Out is an exciting monthly section created just for our readers. If you think of reading the delectable O&C stories as "eating in," then Take Out is a way for us to order out for opinions, comments and discussion from our readers. We hope it's informative, inspiring and fun! To engage in the conversation, simply submit a comment at the bottom of the article. We look forward to reading what our plethora of sophisticated readers have to say!

Originally published October 2010

Comments

• B
  10/6/2010 11:51:22 AM

  I wish men understood our clits are not chew toys! I also wish they understood women need to be brought up to a sexual boil not seared instantly.
• Trina
  10/6/2010 11:57:19 AM

  I wish that men would understand that just because I'm wet does NOT mean I'm close to having an orgasm!
• Y
  10/6/2010 11:57:27 AM

  They should learn to take directions and watch how you play with yourself. Good way to get a guy to learn how to use his hands better is to get him to sit behind you and reach round - his hands will be in the same position as yours. Every woman is different and just because the last one liked you to do something in a particular way, doesn't mean every woman will! Talk to each other and makes sure you listen! Also if you really don't like to give oral sex don't do it, preferable to have someone who enjoys giving it as lack of enthusiasm shows through.
• You Know Who, Male
  10/6/2010 12:08:11 PM

  I realize that only a subset of women have erotic feelings related to urination, but I'd love to see your book reveal details from those who do sometimes get turned on when they pee, when they're holding it, etc. What are those sensations like? What is this or that individual woman's particular sensory experience, as sensations jump from the urethral apparatus to the genitals? Is her arousal routed strictly through the mind--with her physical arousal resulting because peeing makes her feel sexy in a psychological way--or does she have a direct physical response in her erogenous areas to the physical feelings associated with release and/or holding back?
• ssachy
  10/6/2010 4:06:25 PM

  I've always thought the G spot was supposed to be on the front of the vagina. Well, stimulating that specific part of my vagina is no fun at all for me; not only is not particularly good, it's actually uncomfortable. On the other hand, there is a wonderful place that I love to have stimulated, but it's on the back side, right at the end. When that spot gets stimulated (using just the right angle for penetration), I feel some really wonderful stuff. I don't know yet if I can come just from stimulation there (I haven't, so far, but I have a feeling I might), but I have cried and laughed and felt totally losing control of myself, like I was on drugs or something. I don't know if it's just me and the way I happen to be wired, or do other women experience something like this as well?
• Tony
  10/6/2010 4:16:48 PM

  I'm not too sure about the thrust of the opening question. When it comes to womens bodies, I find them much more individual compared to men's. With us, as long as your playing around in the ball park, you can't really go wrong. When it comes to women, it fascinates me how what is right for one girl, can be a complete turn off for another. One of the real joys of being with a woman is 'finding out' about what she loves...so I'm kind of happy not to know in advance, because discovery can be sooo much fun...
• Benjamin
  10/6/2010 4:33:48 PM

  I'm of the mind that whatever a woman deems important about her body should be brought up as soon as possible in a physical relationship. If she likes certain things or dislikes certain things physically, if she has special needs she should share. A good guy is going to want to know where you're sensitive and what you like in order to help you get off in the bedroom. A good girl is going to want to know the same things in return. In fact, it can be a fun conversation to have. I always find it fascinating and in many cases stimulating both intellectually and sexually. One final thing: Man or Woman, you are required to bring up sexaul diseases and hang ups before the relationship becomes even mildly physical. I don't care if it cuts your chances of getting lucky down to nill, you must be forthright and open about all the things that may end up harming your potential partners.
• Benjamin
  10/6/2010 4:49:53 PM

  One final, final thing: A few of the comments above seem to be reactionary and a bit antagonistic. B's comment "I wish men understood our clits are not chew toys!" is a comment I can understand but it's a bit abrasive. I've had women think my frenulum (which I just learned is from the Latin for "little bridle" of all things) was chewable. And, while I screamed and asserted myself as experiencing discomfort, I was not quick to think all women would treat my elastic band of tissue under the glans penis that connects to the prepuce, or foreskin, to the vernal mucosa as said chew toy. When having discussions about your hang ups, try not to blame mistakes made by past partners on new partners. If you do this, you show your new partner that you still have a hang up that brings up memories of an old partner... you're essentially talking about your ex without actually talking about him and that's a big turn off.
• Lablu
  10/6/2010 8:06:22 PM

  Excellent. It is simply excellent that there are some people who always think about the physical chemistry of human being. I wish you all the best.
• Orchidaceae
  10/6/2010 8:21:58 PM

  Don't forget our labia! For some of us it is just as or even more enjoyable than clit stimulation.
• bob
  10/6/2010 9:15:21 PM

  I want to know about reading her sexual cycle. I want to know more about this G-spot, some say it is not real. I want to know if there is a technique to get her in the mood when she says Not right now, for men. all they have to do is remove there clothes after us saying nt right now and oh i change my mind, Is there a way for woman too?
• Alex Severn
  10/7/2010 6:16:04 AM

  To me as man, I want to try to please and arouse a woman because thats how I become aroused myself. I have to feel am turning her on and have spent my adult life exploring techniques and ways of doing this. All guys know (I think!) that women have more complex feelings and desires than men, as one of the above correspondents says, easy for a woman to please a man really. Okay, if I'm with a woman she only has to strip for me, or touch me where I want to be touched (not rocket science, is it!!!???) and I am aroused but I need to try to get to know what she wants from me and the whole relationship. Oral sex , in my experience is often crucial, nothing better for me than to try to please and satisfy a woman with my tongue, trying diffferent moves, lapping, licking, tasting her. Nothing is more wonderful than making her come with my tongue, I actually feel it's more satisfying than penterative sex quite often. Women are way more sensual than men so stroking touching and kissing are so important.I like to touch different parts of a woman not just the obvious erogenous zones, above all listen to her body and her words, when a man really turns a woman on, no feeling in the world beats that, and my reward for treating her prperly is her rection and her orgasm. A lazy uncaring guy gets what he deserves!!!! At the risk of alienating male readers, to me, women are the superior race by a million miles and it's a man's role to please, satisfy and support her NOT the other way round!!! Make sense?? Alex XXX
• J. Lea
  10/7/2010 7:25:10 PM

  I'm loving some of these comments! I can only speak for myself here (ladies, tell me if you feel the same way!) but one thing I would really like to put out there for all men to see is this: I am not a puzzle, task, achievement, or riddle for you to "figure out." Nor is my orgasm a measure of your masculinity or sexual prowess. My orgasms can be elusive - and sometimes the reason is more psychological than physical. I appreciate when a man takes direction, whether it's a verbal cue of "a little to the left" or me gently moving his fingers into the best position. What I don't appreciate are comments like "I'll figure you out yet!" after half an hour of trying and not getting anywhere. It makes me feel slightly deficient, and does nothing for the frustration that may very well be creeping into my mind by that time. If I ask you to stop, and I haven't reached orgasm yet, don't take it as an affront to your manhood. Things get chafed easily down there, y'know. :-) And I'm perfectly capable of enjoying myself in the bedroom even if I don't come. Along those same lines, if I tell you that I only orgasm through clitoral stimulation, don't take that as in invitation to prove me wrong. That says to me that you haven't listened to a word I've said, and/or have no regard for my feelings on the matter. And we'll both just end up disappointed. If it happens out of the blue one day, then hooray! But don't count on it.
• Michael
  10/10/2010 5:48:55 AM

  A lesson I learned a long time ago was this - "If you don't know or want to know, ask". It is truely amazing what kind of results you will get. Having said that, my wife and I are now faced with a situation neither of us has encountered. My wife is going through menopause. We have noticed changes in her. She is not as quick to orgasm as she once was. Her lubrication level has decreased (we have LOTS of tubes and bottles of various artificial lubrications close at hand at all times). But what will the next phases be? What can we lok forward to happening? Our sex life is the most fulfilling it has ever been for either of us (both of us have been married before) and we would hate to see that change. We do we go from here?
• bonbon
  10/12/2010 9:18:56 PM

  men please when you are touching the clit and vagina listen to our moans if we are saying oh yea or keep doin that it means keep doing it please don't change how you tweaking our clit if we are telling you it feels good think of it this way how would you feel if you where building up and up from a blow job and how she was licking you and suddenly she stopped well that is what happens to us when you have our spot and then you change what you are doing. i find that clit stimulation with an electric vibrator is fantastic and if you can come with that and he goes inside you at that moment and pounds you then you can really have a fantastic orgasm.
• naturegirl
  1/26/2011 3:05:31 AM

  During oral, try "drawing" a figure of eight with your tongue, starting at our clits, down over the labia, over the perineum then back up our labia on the other side up to the clit again. That feels good!! Just a personal thought, during a 69, I love to have a finger tip inserted in my anus as I'm about to climax, that really tips me over the edge. May not be every woman's thing but it works for me....

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